Reasons men evade marriage

analysis of today’s society will reveal that more people are taking their time before shredding the cocoon of singlehood. Men especially, seem to be in no hurry of sorts to become attached for various reasons, some of which include:

EconomyIt is no longer news that women get jobs faster than men. As expected, men find it convenient to delay marriage, so that they can be financially capable of taking care of the new family.

Prolonged adolescenceAs much as one chooses not to judge the lifestyle of some men, it is hard to ignore the fact that unless a woman is willing to put up with a man’s ‘necessary tendencies’, one should be comfortable with the refusal to tie the knot just yet.

Available dividends of marriageCohabitation, premarital sex, willing and abundant ‘baby mamas’, and other factors which should be available ‘strictly’ within marriage settings are now readily available and less frowned upon by society. As a result, it is only natural that a man wonders why he needs to rush into legalising the union. 

The pornographic optionThe popularisation and cheap availability of pornographic materials is also not helping matters, as the option seems a safe and convenient excuse for some men to remain lonely.

Fear of commitmentIncreased divorce and separation rates in society also contribute to why men choose to delay marriage. Some men refuse to accept that not all women are the same, especially if they have been hurt or have hurt women repeatedly. Also, others who have not been hurt, focus on the failed examples available in their folks and close friends and believe that the situation is the same in all cases.

Inferiority complex/IndecisionIt is especially saddening when a man decides to sit by and let his dreams of marrying a particular lady go by. It is equally disheartening that a lot of women refuse to make the first move. Some men find it hard to walk up to a woman, much less strike up a conversation for reasons that bother on fear of refusal, wooing an ‘attached’ woman, sounding ridiculous, etc.

Fewer shotgun marriagesOnce upon a time, it was taboo to impregnate a lady outside marriage, else the man was automatically whisked to the altar. However, the trend of single motherhood and increased use of birth control measures has reversed the shotgun trend. As such, men find it easier to evade the marriage tag.

Finding the ‘right’ personMen usually focus on finding the ‘right’ woman, rather than being the ‘right’ man. As such, since no individual is perfect, the problem of settling arises.

‘Ridiculous’ expectations of womenFrom costly weddings, perfect honeymoon locations, number of children, to allowances for relatives, shoe and wedding gown styles, there is the tendency for men to become easily stressed with these demands. As a result, they may take cue from other men’s experiences and decide to take things easy.

Smaller familiesThe growing inclination towards building smaller families is also a contributing factor to why men delay marriage. Since men sometimes want few children, they see no reason to rush into marriage, claiming they have all the time in the world to drag their feet.